Many people shy away from phone sex because of how explicit and vocal they have to be while over the phone, and will never be able to experience the beauty of it on account of their shyness. We get it, it can be super intimidating. But if you’re someone who has sex “in person”, we promise, you can do it over the phone too.

 

Another thing to remember is that once the two of you ‘ease’ into things, it won’t be so awkward anymore. I can remember each time that I had phone sex with a current boyfriend I was dating, or even my fiance now, how weird it felt in the start of it all but also how amazing it was the rest of the way through. 

 

In life, it’s usually the things that make us a little uncomfortable in the beginning, that allow us to feel completely invigorated in the end. One way to look at it is how the person on the other end has nothing else to fantasize about but you and only you in that moment, this alone is a huge compliment and turn-on to know you can make someone cum without even touching them.

 

Ways to Have the Best Phone Sex Experience

Always get permission & talk about it first – There should never be a moment that you just jump right into phone sex out of nowhere, unless it’s someone you’ve been with for years. Furthermore, sometimes a person isn’t in the right mind frame to do it, they may even be in an area far away from their bed at the moment of impact – so always make sure first.

 

The two of you should have conversations about everything too, like literally – everything. What would you want him or her NOT to say? Any trigger words? Is there anything they could do that would immediately end the conversation? You will need to plan it out and set it up almost like a date, but a sex date, over the phone.

Make sure your environment is good too

So even though you’ve talked about it, your partner is ready to go, and you may think you are ready to go – check the temperature of the room first. Are you good to lay down right now and start this steamy, hot sexual conversation? Or do you have to cook dinner in five minutes? Make sure your mind is relaxed and you don’t have anything to do for at least a couple of hours.

 

More than just your environment though, you’ll want to make sure that you are comfortable and relaxed also. You need to feel sexy and vulnerable, sometimes a shower beforehand can help with that, or if you’re one of those people who love doubles of everything maybe you could have a pre-game orgasm?

Know what to say and what not to say

Easing into phone sex is probably the hardest part of it all, so sometimes people will actually start making noises before they say much at all. Make sure you’ve talked about the words that are no-no’s, the words that are turn-offs, and then of course the go-to words to make things come to a head.

 

For example, a woman may like the word ‘pussy’ but could get very turned off by the c-u-next tuesday word, as many women do. Men on the other hand may get upset if you so much as crack a smile when he pulls his pants down, it’s all about personal preferences and no-no’s for someone – we all have them.

Masturbate together

The best way to get the ball rollin’ is to start masturbating together, and letting each other know exactly what you are doing too. This is where your word play kicks in, and the tone of your voice can mean everything as well. Make sure you keep the tone in your voice low and calm, playful yet serious, and a little bit of everything all rolled up into one. Make the other person feel comfortable and be silly if you have to, to break the ice.

 

Masturbating together at the same time, then letting each other know what you’re doing simultaneously will almost always set the mood and everything else just follows after. This is where you could start saying things that will set them off, something like “I’m getting really wet thinking about you” or “you’re making me so hard right now” are some of the best ice-breakers.

Utilize the room around you

We’re not saying to grab the nearest hairbrush and shove it inside of you but use things near you and around to enhance the pleasure. Have some porn? Turn it on and listen while you have fun with your partner. Rather hear light sexy music instead? Turn on your favorite CD to “bump and grind” to. And yes, if you have sex toys (or something that can double as a sex toy and is sanitary) then have at it! 

 

Enhancing the room around you with background noise or visuals, or using toys to enhance the pleasure altogether, will allow you to open up and be free during the phone sex experience. 

Dirty talk…more dirty talk…and did we say talk dirty?

One of the leading phone sex chat lines, PhoneSexChat.com , teaches us that talking dirty is the single most important thing about having an amazing phone sex experience – and I couldn’t agree more! You can’t have a great session over the phone with just some moaning and noises, you’ve got to bring those feelings and actions to life. 

 

After all, we can’t see what you’re doing so you have to tell us.

Live out a fantasy

One of the hottest things a girl or guy could ever do for their partner is to allow them to live out their fantasy with him or her. So if he’s always wanted to bang a hot nurse, guess who you’re going to be today? If she’s always wanted to hang on to some rock hard firefighters muscles, get ready to whip out your hose! Since our brains are what gets us roaring and ready, you must get your mindset right and think about your partner in a sexy way for take off!

Relive a hot, steamy moment of yours

I’m sure the two of you have already had a hot, steamy and sexual moment together, rehash that moment or those hours of passion. While you’re touching yourself and they touch themselves, you can reminisce on how amazing that night was for you when he went so deep inside of you for the very first time. Remind him how he made you cum the fastest anyone has ever made you.

 

For him, he could let her know how he loves just how tight she is and the night that they made love on the couch he almost couldn’t get it in a third time because she felt so good on his dick. Making them feel like the king or queen of the world, coupled with the hot, steamy moment you had and are having right now, is a sure fire way to spice up the phone sex and make them cum…again.

Send pics, get on Skype/Facetime and add to the fun

We’re living in a time where the phone is no longer just an apparatus to use when you want to call someone, now you can call someone and turn on the camera and show your face (and body) too. Since we didn’t have this growing up in my days, I can only imagine how this will turn out, if the phone by itself was a pleasure hero.

 

Don’t send too many pics, and certainly don’t send pics of the same ‘thing’ over and over, spice it up and leave something for him or her to imagine. Only use Skype or Facetime if you’re having phone sex with someone you really love or really care about, otherwise, you could end up on a porn site and you certainly don’t want that. At least, not unless you’re getting paid, right?

 

Whatever you can do to entice your lover or partner, and help them visualize what you are doing and how you are feeling, rather than just letting them hear you. Being able to see, know, and hear what it feels like when you pleasure yourself, for your partner, is a recipe for the best phone sex experience you’ll ever have! 

 

Now go pick up the phone and plan out that next phone sex sesh with your partner right away!